Understanding Together

glimpses of truth and kindness

Three Minutes, Three Times a Day

written by David Montgomery, on Nov 29, 2009 11:14:00 PM.

From Being Genuine, page 232:

Sometimes, however, when partipants at a training session insist on having advice as to a method of regular practice, I suggest the following:

"Three minutes, three times a day! Three minutes listening to yourself without judging, without blaming, without advising, without trying to find a solution. Three presence-filled minutes for you, not for your plans or concerns. Three minutes to take stock of your inner state without trying to change anything. Three minutes to connect with yourself, check that you are truly present to yourself, and that to the question, Is there someone home? you can truly answer with all your being, 'Yes, I am there.' Do this three times a day! It is out of this quality of presence to yourself that may well be born a quality of presence to others."

Culture and Shadow

written by David Montgomery, on Nov 23, 2009 12:44:00 PM.

Below are some excerpts from "Educating for Mission, Meaning, and Compassion" by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D., a chapter in The Heart of Learning. From pages 35-38:

Shadow is the wound that a culture inflicts on its people: a diminishing of innate wholeness through a collective judgment or disapproval. Every culture diminishes wholeness in its own way. All people born into a culture find approval for certain aspects of their own wholeness and suffer judgment for certain other aspects. It is only human to trade our wholeness for approval, and share in the collective wound. Some of us are more deeply wounded than others, but no one escapes.

Recovering compassion requires us to confront the shadow of our culture directly. While relatively few people carry a gun, we all [in the United States] carry with us the values of the frontier, such values as self-sufficiency, competence, independence, and mastery. These are core values of our culture. We are a culture that values mastery and control. But in the shadow of these values lies a profound sense of isolation from our human wholeness. As individuals and as a culture we have developed a contempt for anything in ourselves and in others that has needs, and is capable of suffering. In our isolation, we also tend to develop a suspicion of anything beyond ourselves, anything that falls outside of our control. So we become separated, both horizontally and vertically.

Of all the contemporary cultural institutions, education holds the greatest promise for healing the wounds of the cultural shadow. ...

Now, as educators, we cannot heal the shadow of our culture by educating people to succeed in society as it is. We must have the courage to educate people to heal this world into what it might become. ...

Healing the shadow of a culture may require the formation of a subculture of credible people who value that which has been devalued by the dominant culture. This subculture confers on its participants permission for a greater wholeness that heals them.

Robot Assassins

written by David Montgomery, on Nov 15, 2009 9:46:00 PM.

The web comic xkcd is one of my regular sources of amusement.

In case you're new to it, be sure to hover your mouse over the comic for a bit more fun.

But when I read the extra text for this one,

More Accurate

"We live in a world where there are actual fleets of robot assassins patrolling the skies. ...", I feel sad.

It's true, and we can do better.

The Charter for Compassion

written by David Montgomery, on Nov 12, 2009 10:51:00 AM.

Today the Charter for Compassion was launched:

The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect.

It is also necessary in both public and private life to refrain consistently and empathically from inflicting pain. To act or speak violently out of spite, chauvinism, or self-interest, to impoverish, exploit or deny basic rights to anybody, and to incite hatred by denigrating others—even our enemies—is a denial of our common humanity. We acknowledge that we have failed to live compassionately and that some have even increased the sum of human misery in the name of religion.

We therefore call upon all men and women ~ to restore compassion to the centre of morality and religion ~ to return to the ancient principle that any interpretation of scripture that breeds violence, hatred or disdain is illegitimate ~ to ensure that youth are given accurate and respectful information about other traditions, religions and cultures ~ to encourage a positive appreciation of cultural and religious diversity ~ to cultivate an informed empathy with the suffering of all human beings—even those regarded as enemies.

We urgently need to make compassion a clear, luminous and dynamic force in our polarized world. Rooted in a principled determination to transcend selfishness, compassion can break down political, dogmatic, ideological and religious boundaries. Born of our deep interdependence, compassion is essential to human relationships and to a fulfilled humanity. It is the path to enlightenment, and indispensible to the creation of a just economy and a peaceful global community.

There is a field

written by David Montgomery, on Nov 10, 2009 8:06:00 PM.

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
doesn't make any sense.

―Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks